Let’s be real for a second: feeling vulnerable is terrifying.
Vulnerability means we invite someone into our hearts and minds. We share our feelings, fears, obstacles and goals in an honest, authentic way — sometimes more honestly than we’ve been with ourselves lately. We tear down the unbreakable walls we usually hold firm, and we let someone take a genuine peek at what lies under the surface. We share what makes us who we are, for better or for worse. It can be uncomfortable and disruptive.
But here’s the thing: being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness. In fact, opening up this way takes immeasurable strength.
Sometimes we feel the most powerful way to move forward is to march alone. It’s easy to believe that relying on someone else makes you weaker, less capable, or less accomplished. This mindset means we may find ourselves refusing to ask for a life raft — even when we feel like we’re drowning — because that moment of vulnerability, the idea of asking for help, stops us dead in our tracks.
So this fear of being vulnerable means you put up barriers to keep others out… but you find that, instead, these barriers are in your way.
The old saying, it takes a village, has never rung truer than in today’s world — one of chaos, uncertainty, and oftentimes strained connection. It has become easier than ever to isolate ourselves, to become increasingly independent, and to find comfort in living within our own comfortable bubble. And, while this certainly has its place in our self care rituals and mental health mantras, it is vitally important to identify when we need to reach out for help — and to find the inner strength to do so.
If we are unable to open up without fear of the consequences, without stressing about judgment, and without worrying about what others may think, we are doing ourselves a disservice. Because you don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders alone. And you shouldn’t.
We’re all in this together.
Whether you’re struggling with balance, dealing with burnout, or going through periods of sadness, the cure may be to reach out. To share. To connect. And most of all: to ask for help. You might be surprised how many helping hands are reaching out to catch you.
So lean on those who love you. Be real with those who surround you. Be authentic with yourself. In doing so, you will lean into the kind of vulnerability that makes you stronger, happier, and more at peace.
Vulnerability is the new strength, and learning to sit within this feeling may be the best thing you can do for your mental health and wellness.