As we become more mindful and present through life’s daily moments, we begin to notice what drains us and what recharges us. We notice what fills our cup, and we notice what requires us to pour from that cup.
For some of us, social interaction fills our cup to the max. After time with friends, loved ones and even coworkers, we’re left brimming with excitement and energy, ready to tackle the rest of the day with a renewed sense of fun. These are the extroverts we see buzzing around with a smile. For others, socialising takes energy. Introverts may leave a social interaction feeling tired, worn out and ready for a recharge. This is not a negative thing; rather, it’s part of what makes us unique and beautiful individuals.
Most of us don’t lie strictly on one side of the introvert/extrovert line. We can be introverted extroverts or extroverted introverts. There may be moments where we’re fuelled, inspired and energised by socialising, and moments when we can’t wait to get home and curl up on the couch with a good book. Perhaps visiting family members and loved ones feels effortless and energising, whilst interacting with good friends requires a bit more energy.
These rules aren’t hard and fast — each day, and each circumstance, can make us feel different. Once we identify how we’ve become fuelled or drained by a situation, we can be more mindful of taking care of ourselves to refill our cup.
The key is to understand when, and how, we like to recharge. Even the most extroverted of extroverts require a bit of down time, and even the most introverted will find refreshing ways to refill their social energy.
It’s essential to be aware of when your cup feels alarmingly empty. Notice when you may not have the energy to take on a certain situation. Create time in your busy days and weeks to focus on you. Trying to pour from an empty cup is a recipe for stress, tension and exhaustion.
When we spend time with ourselves, alone and mindfully, treating ourselves to what feels good and what we love, we will begin to feel refreshed, renewed, and ready to take on what’s required of us.
When you feel low on social energy, it’s time to recharge. Don’t feel pressure to force it. Bring love, self-care and empathy for yourself to the forefront.
Know that it’s okay to say “no”. Because doing so makes the next “yes” all the more bright, uplifting and rewarding.